I want to address here, homosexuality as well as non-biological sexual/gender identities, from a Biblical perspective. I will share why Christians are so against homosexuality, how it affects a relationship with God, and if that’s even possible. If you are practicing homosexuality, you are absolutely welcome here. I hope not to offend you, and I ask you to keep an open mind and read through to the end. This is not an attack on homosexuals. It’s an educational writing. I will also share at the end, links to some testimony from Christians who previously practiced homosexuality and transgenderism.

When your Christian friend tells you that you are going to Hell because of homosexuality, it’s not an attack against you. It’s not because they think they’re better than you. Or they are bigoted and refuse to accept your choices or lifestyle, because you don’t act like them. It is because they genuinely care about you and are looking out for your eternal wellbeing. Going against God in this life has eternal consequences and they are trying to warn you that you are on the wrong track. They are telling you what the Bible says and what they believe. If you don’t believe in God you are going to have a hard time understanding this. But, you can try to understand that Christians mean you no harm. Our ‘belief system’ (if you want to call it that), tells us that you are in grave danger and we want to save you from it. And I will personally apologize for those who have offended, condemned, or just been downright rude to you. That is not the way Christians are supposed to behave, but unfortunately there are crazies in every camp, and Christians are no exception. You may think that the whole church is against you, but I’m here to tell you that is not the case. They actually care about you and love you, and want to see you healed and free.

The only reason that homosexuals and transgenders tend to get the brunt of the Christian criticism is because it’s right out in the open. Most other sins are usually hidden. Unless someone makes it known, other sins like adultery, lying, and stealing are often hidden from public view. People don’t openly share that they are sleeping around on their spouse. Yet, people do openly share their homosexuality, so it’s not usually a secret to the public. I’m not saying that’s wrong to be open about it or not, I’m just pointing out the fact that, because it’s in the open, it’s easy for Christians to see that you need help or you may need God in your life.

God’s warning against sin applies to anyone who practices any sin, especially as a lifestyle. Occasional sin is not good either, but that’s a topic for another discussion. Though even occasional sin, can start as a one-time thrill, or occasional indulgence – if you can continue to indulge that sin – it often becomes a lifestyle, invades your thoughts, and over time, it can even overshadow your entire identity. You won’t even be able to imagine living any other way. You won’t even know how to go back to what you once were. This is Satan invading your life, because you have let him in (more on this later). Make no mistake. Living in sin, continually disobeying God, carries eternal consequences.

Does it make you a bad person? Does it mean God won’t accept you, or that you can’t come to church? Absolutely not! Everyone has their own journey with God. Please understand that everyone struggles with one type of sin or another, and everyone has to work that out with God to be forgiven of their sins and to be saved from an eternity in Hell. Even the ones who condemn you (which they really have no right to do). Spiritually, you are no different than any other human on Earth. We are all guilty of sin, and we must repent of our sins to be saved. The good news is that God can free you from sin, heal your hurt, and make you like a new person – if you let Him.

Another common belief in the LGBTQ+ community is that you are ‘born this way’. It’s just ‘who you are’. It’s a difference in your chemical makeup or your brain that makes you different… Well, if you believe in God, you believe He created all men and women. God does not make mistakes. He does not accidentally put a woman spirit in a man’s body or vice versa. He makes everyone with a special and unique purpose and plan – even down to your physical design. Yes, there is a specific, individual mission for your life that God has created you for, that only you can fulfill! However, you will never know what it is unless you seek Him. There is more to this life than what you see around you.

The problem at least in America, is that sin propaganda has been shoved down everyone’s throat. Sadly, Satan rules this world and does whatever He can to confuse and derail people into following him and not God. He is behind all the leaders and media outlets that are normalizing homosexuality (and every other type of sin), and making everyone think it’s ‘ok’. At the same time, information about God is hidden, misconstrued, and mocked on the global stage.

Make no mistake. This world is the classroom side of life. We are here to learn right from wrong, and the final exam literally means life and death. Sin separates you from God. This is why you can’t see, hear, or feel Him – and that is probably why you don’t believe. You’ve never experienced any evidence of God. But, if you were to seek Him, He would reveal Himself to you.

Let’s review the Scripture on homosexuality. First, we know that homosexuality (or any form of unnatural sex) is not God’s design. The first 2 humans created were man and woman, and He created woman for man. Woman was to be man’s helper (Genesis 2: 20-24). “God created mankind in His own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female He created them. Then,God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it (Genesis 1:27-28). The very first commandment given to humans was to procreate and fill the earth. The desire for sex is to accomplish procreation. The only way to procreate is by sex between man and woman, and by the way this is intended to be through marriage, not casual sex (more on this later). “each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband” (1 Corinthians 7:2). “Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers” (Hebrews 13:4). This was God’s perfect design, 1 man, 1 woman.

Secondly, God has forbidden it. However, even in biblical times, men and women had turned to homosexuality. When this happened, God warned them strongly against it and when they would not obey, such as in the story of Sodom and Gomorrah, He destroyed them. Homosexuality was rampant in this city. So much so, that when the villagers heard that Lot (Abraham’s nephew) had male visitors in his home, they surrounded the house and demanded that they be brought out so that they could have sex with them (Genesis 19:4-11). This group of men included “all the men from every part of the city of Sodom, young and old alike”. So basically they entire city of men wanted to gang rape a couple of foreigners that were there for a few days. Imagine what was going on in this city on a daily basis, for something like this to happen.

Prior to this God had said that He was coming to see if “The outcry against Sodom and Gomorrah is so great and their sin so grievous” as he had heard (Genesis 18:20), because His plan was to destroy it. Apparently it was that bad because He did destroy it. “The Lord rained down burning sulfur on Sodom and Gomorrah—from the Lord out of the heavens. Thus he overthrew those cities and the entire plain, destroying all those living in the cities—and also the vegetation in the land (Genesis 19: 24-25). Later, Jude reflects on this destruction, saying “Even as Sodom and Gomorrah, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire” (Jude 1:7). These cities were made an example of, to warn others that do the same, the punishment is eternal fire. In fact, God gives many strong warnings against it. It’s harsh and hard to hear, and please understand I do not share this to judge or condemn anyone. That is God’s position and not mine or anyone else’s and I will discuss this in more detail later. For now, please just stick with me, if you will, and if nothing else, simply educate yourself on what the Bible (ie God) says about it.

Romans 1:24-32: God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator… Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error. Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done… Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10: do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.

1 Timothy 1:8-11: Now we know that the law is good, if one uses it lawfully, understanding this, that the law is not laid down for the just but for the lawless and disobedient, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who strike their fathers and mothers, for murderers, the sexually immoral, men who practice homosexuality, enslavers, liars, perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound doctrine, in accordance with the gospel of the glory of the blessed God with which I have been entrusted.

Leviticus 18:22: You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination.

These are just a few examples, specific to homosexuality. Does this mean that Christians can’t love and accept someone who is homosexual? Of course not! Should they be allowed in your church? Of course! How else will they find God? We should not accept, however, sinful behavior. If someone were openly committing adultery, or any other type of sin, we would at least ensure they are aware that what they are doing is not God’s will, and even remind them if needed. We should absolutely try to lead them to repentance and salvation. However, if they refuse, that is their choice and hard as it may be, we need to allow them to make that choice. We can still be a friend and love this person, although we disagree with their choices. We all have to seek God to find out what we’re supposed to do (or not do) with this life, seek what He would have us change.

If you love the Lord, you will do this (seek His will). Yes, not only do we try to understand and obey the guidance God provided in the Bible, but you can have an active, current relationship with Him and He will help you with specific guidance on what is happening with you today, in this life. I cannot speak for what God will forgive and who He will have mercy upon. I do think it’s a case by case basis. Only He knows your heart, and we all must pray for forgiveness and revelation to be sanctified, but please be warned and take this seriously. Because “God will repay each person according to what they have done. To those who by persistence in doing good seek glory, honor and immortality, he will give eternal life. But for those who are self-seeking and who reject the truth and follow evil, there will be wrath and anger. There will be trouble and distress for every human being who does evil: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile; but glory, honor and peace for everyone who does good: first for the Jew, then for the Gentile (Romans 2:6-10).

Side-note: If you are a Christian and have tried to help someone struggling in sin, but they simply will not hear it, you may want to read Saving Family and Friends.

Now, as I mentioned, casual sex is not permitted either. In biblical times, this was called fornication. To God, sexual sin is one of the most grave sins, and it carries dire consequences.

1 Corinthians 6:18: Flee sexual immorality. Every other sin that a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.

Ephesians 5:3: But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-4: It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable.

Revelation 21:8: But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—they will be consigned to the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death.”

Again, just a few examples. Warnings against sexual immorality which includes fornication (or casual sex), pornography, adultery, and homosexuality. Not only do these sins carry heavy punishment in the next life, they tend to wreak havoc in this one. The only other option, given biblically is celibacy. If you simply do not have a sexual desire, it is best to live alone and serve the Lord. Paul talks about this in 1 Corinthians 7. “To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion” (1 Corinthians 7:8-9). If you have sexual desires, the solution is marriage. If you do not, the solution is an unmarried, celibate or obstinate life, devoted to the Lord. Both are considered gifts.

Now, if you have homosexual desires and have fallen into this sin, please do not think that all hope is lost. Also, there is nothing wrong with you. You are no different than any other person on the planet that struggles with sin. If you desire salvation and a relationship with God, you simply need to come to Him, ask for His forgiveness and ask Him to help you through it. I urge you not to believe the lie that it’s “who you are”. It is not “who you are”, it is something you do, and everyone has control over what they do or don’t do. Don’t tie actions to your identity. Actually, many of us do this with other types of sin as well. I’m just a drunk, I just can’t be faithful, I just can’t stop. These are lies from the devil.

In fact, you may even be dealing with a demon. Often when we continually rebel against God’s will, even unknowingly, we invite demons in. Demons are Spirits without bodies. You could think of them as evil ghosts. They take up residence in human bodies so that they can live out their agendas through us. What’s their agenda? To kill, steal, and destroy. To confuse and derail you from your real goals and destiny. To move you as far from God as they can. To isolate you from your family and those that love you the most. To get you on a path of rejection, humiliation, shame, violence (against you), substance abuse, and whatever else will destroy your life and relationships and ability to know God. They will even work through people around you to push you down a path of destruction. But they can take over your entire identity and personality, and your entire life – if you let them.

In addition, many studies are showing that those in the LGTBQ+ have commonly suffered from childhood trauma and/or abuse, are at a higher rate for suicide and often suffer from anxiety and depression. These are also symptoms and/or causes of having demons. Those spirits will invade your mind, telling you that you could never be with a man or woman again because of what was done to you, because you would get hurt again. They continually make you relive the trauma over and over, fueling the anger, depression, and fear that was caused by it. This way you can never forget it, and if you continue to live in fear and anxiety from it, you will never actually heal from it either. That’s the goal. In fact, many people who have been delivered from demons, testify that the overpowering desires they once had, have completely vanished and they are able to (happily) live an entirely different life. If this sounds familiar, please read my blog on Demons and Deliverance. If you find yourself in one of the last 2 groups mentioned, you will also likely need to find a Christian Counselor. If you are even curious about God, I would encourage you to find one. I don’t say that because I am one, it doesn’t have to be me. I say that because they can help you heal and find God at the same time.

Church hurt works the same way. If a Christian hurt you, or an entire church in some cases, you may feel like you’re an enemy of the Church. This will prevent you from ever going back to the #1 place where you could encounter God. Please know this isn’t the case. Good Christians should gladly welcome you like anyone else, and should be able to teach you about God in a loving way, without any condemnation, judgement, or condescendence. No person can judge or condemn you, only God can. We are all guilty of sin, if we judged others, we would be hypocrites.

In my own journey, I have come across several people that came from the LGBTQ+ community who found God. There are many, many more out there. Just search Jesus and your particular orientation or identity, and you will find many others who have been delivered from it. I would encourage you to explore their stories and decide for yourself if it is time for you to seek God and what He has planned for you.

Tiara Moore (prior lesbian) https://youtu.be/RblQv8S4C2Q?si=m4G2fcdyBoHtU_FO

Randy (prior homosexual man) https://youtu.be/YiyO_brJEz0?si=QdrC9bAKBlH2ynZs

Joshua McParland (prior trans female) https://youtu.be/WX-47pJUV6Y?si=BD7QZf1LSi9W-Mlf

Helena Schmitt (prior teen trans male) https://youtu.be/KMPSE2CB0A0?si=PcMiaj8M2foT8UUE

Linda Seiler (prior trans male, gender confusion) https://youtu.be/W4WxPhWdU60?si=AwDBGGj59LlDbo3I